The topic of success is very subjective. There are many different ways to measure success – here are some categories for example- financial, emotional, mental and spiritual.  If you speak to 5 different people you may get 5 separate, distinct answers.  I am writing this particular entry to discuss my motivator – it has changed as I evolved thru my life and I would like to illustrate when it changes.

Original motivator – poverty- knowing what it  is not to have. When I was very young we had very little – and I remember it very clearly- I remember hearing, “we cannot afford that” too many times,  I am not fond of those memories.

Young Adult as I was  going from middle school and then high school (I went to Lehman high school) I noticed that the college Guidance counselor would direct kids to schools that she thought were appropriate- I wanted to go to NYU – and although I didn’t have excellent grades- I am a very good test taker so I did well on my SAT’s.  So against her advice I applied to NYU (and a few backups) and I was accepted!

Working Thru college – I was working as an elevator man  at a building on 79th and Broadway in Manhattan – the name of the building is the “Apthorp  – I met an assortment of people who forever helped shape my perspective on life – among the tenants were

  • Rosie O’Donnell – actress and late night host
  • Cindy Lauper Pop star – “girls just want to have fun”
  • Nicholas Pileggi– writer of movie – “Goodfellas”  and “Casino”
  • Nora Ephron– movie producer – “sleepless in Seattle”, “ When Harry met Sally”  ( who was married to Nicholas Pileggi)
  • Michael Knight – soap opera star “ Days of our lives”
  • Kenneth Chenault– Chairman of American Express

Although we were not supposed to speak to the tenants – they would always be courteous and say hello and would converse with me.

The one thing I can say about each and every one of those people is that they all had a great attitude – they all had a great “vibration” 

They were always encouraging in whatever we spoke about and always told me, in their own way, that anything is possible – that stuck with me – I always felt that way myself, but where I grew up that was not the general consensus,  hearing it from people at the top of their professions, validated my beliefs – Although not one of those people looked like me -I knew that I was on the right path. Upon graduation from NYU, I opened and ran, a few small businesses before being introduced to my current profession/Passion of Mortgages and Real Estate.

Adult life – my family is my drive – my beautiful wife- my young sons – my mother- my sister – my nephews – my 53 cousins – (that’s a real number)

MY  “Y, is to be able to help- to help my family- to help my friends- to help my clients -even other professionals in my industry-whatever their goal is. I have a deep motivation to show my children that all these things that I speak about to them are possible- to Show thru hard work and discipline anything is possible.

I have a responsibility to help open their “minds”  to the endless possibilities that are before them, in their journey of life – to be someone they could identify with- someone who looks like them and talks like them and is successful in their professional and Personal lives – ( whatever the metric) .

I walk my talk…..  that drive is stronger today than it was when I was younger!

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  1. I’ve read a few of your postings because of who you’ve been with me and my clients. I’m looking forward to your posts even more now. Keep up the good works. Thanks and God bless.

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